You have the meet-up location set, outfit planned, and conversation starters ready, you’re excited and sweating through your shirt, because first date jitters happen; especially when you really like someone. We get it.
If your date is tomorrow or in a couple of hours (ahh we’re so excited for you), definitely glad you’re reading this. We’re not saying you should act like someone you’re not, but keep these broad ideas in mind when you’re on your date, it might save the day.
Here’s what you should avoid in order to get a second date (if you’re interested, of course).
Only bring up yourself.
This is an unequivocal no. It’s a tremendous turn-off to go on and on about oneself. Instead, take a few moments to inquire about your date. Maintain a healthy balance of talking about your life and theirs. Think of this part as a tennis match, one thing about you, two about them etc.
Hold a questioning session
This is not something you want to try our on a first date. You may be curious, but don’t make your date feel as though they’re being probed about their personal lives. Instead of 10, have a few questions prepared, and even then, intertwine them in the conversations you are having then randomly asking them.
Don’t become too tipsy, or have to many
Let’s put this sloppiness behind us. Slurred speech is never cute and having too much to drink with someone you’ve just met might not give the best impression. Let’s keep it fun!
Bring up your ex
Hey, it happens (briefly), and that’s fine or if they ask, but dragging out the ex subject is tiresome and can send your date into a nose dive.
Don’t be late
Showing up late without a good reason is a clear reflection of how much you value the other person’s time. You agreed to the date, so prepare your schedule appropriately. There’s nothing more attractive then a punctual person that’s excited to be there that they are extra early!
Keep a surface-level discussion going
A first date is an opportunity to get to know someone on a deeper level. That’s all there is to it. Dig deep, and if they don’t want to do it, and you do, might need to think if there should be a second date on the books.
Bring up the topic of the relationship’s future plans
Uh oh, let’s not get ahead of our selves. If you’re genuinely into someone, it’s exciting and tempting to want to talk about the future, but try to avoid scaring them away by talking about where you picture your future as a pair. Asking what they are after can help understand if you’re both looking for the same thing, otherwise, DON’T DO IT.
Being rude to staff or people around you
Consider how your date would appear if he or she was gossiping and being nasty to the workers. Would you allow yourself to get turned on? We didn’t believe it, either.
Overthink
It’s impossible to resist overthinking at times, but try to stay present and in the moment. You were the one who got them there. They like you, so take a deep breath and enjoy the date.
Interrupting and failing to pay attention to your date
Interrupting someone who is actively giving you a tale is simply plain disrespectful. Being a good listener will show them you care about them.
We hope you’re now ready to met your person, and remember, when things don’t work out, they weren’t meant to be for you anyway! Now go out there and enjoy yourself.
If you have any bad dates, we would love to hear about it in the comments!
