What about you? Please note that while occasionally fitting into this category is OK, you don’t want it to be your primary personality attribute. At that point, it turns poisonous and gives the impression that you are disparaging other women in order to boost your own image. Uncertain about what we are talking about? Please allow us to explain and provide some “choose me girl” instances.
Again, if you’ve done one of these things previously, don’t worry about it; it happens. When that’s your only method of striking up a conversation or attracting a guy’s attention, it just starts to seem unpleasant. It’s hardly worth losing sleep over if you accidentally made one of these allusions out of nervous habit while trying to connect with someone in a discussion. We’re not fine with it, though, if you’re deliberately trying to outdo someone. You can be a sufferer of choose me girl syndrome without even realising it if you read this list and think, “Oh wow, I do this all the time.”
So, here is what it looks like and how to avoid it…
Note from the editor: This article utilises both male and female pronouns, although the guidance is appropriate for people of all sexual orientations and gender identities.
MAKING IT KNOWN THAT YOU DON’T NEED TO WEAR MAKEUP.
Cool. To each their own, but a little mascara and foundation never injured anybody, and there’s no need to boast about your flawlessly smooth skin if you don’t “need” makeup.
TALKING ABOUT HOW LOW-MAINTENANCE YOU ARE.
I don’t know about you, but we are all in favour of speaking out in favour of a medium-to-high maintenance skincare routine, and there is nothing wrong with it. Over here, anti-aging preventive team!
SAYING “I’M NOT LIKE OTHER GIRLS.”
That’s right; we’re all special. There’s no need to remark on how unique you are to others in a condescending manner. Say something like, “I adore that for her,” and then leave the conversation on a happy note.
PUTTING DOWN OTHER PEOPLE
Again, she implies that she is superior to others because she is so “cool,” whether she is discussing how someone is overdressed or has too much glitz. Not appealing. The appeal of lifting and assisting other ladies is ten times greater, I guarantee.
BRAGS ABOUT BEING A “GUYS” GIRL.
If someone can’t maintain a close circle of female friends and just goes out with men, that’s usually a warning sign. Having close male friends is certainly OK, but if she claims she dislikes having girlfriends, there may be more to the statement than meets the eye.
TO LET PEOPLE KNOW SHE “DOES NOT DO DRAMA.”
This means that she is actually the one who frequently causes conflict among her friends. Sometimes drama cannot be avoided, and the mature course of action is to keep it between the persons concerned.
The moral of the narrative is that the harmful “choose me girl” trend pits women against one another. If you’re guilty of this, stop and consider how you might change the narrative to allow women to be who they truly are rather than using it as a springboard for a conversation to attempt to make yourself seem superior or cool. There is already enough negativity in the world.
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